Making the Most of the Bardo

“the state of existence intermediate between two lives on Earth.” It is obscenely easy to slip into romanticism when writing about life aboard a boat.  Lazy comparisons to Thomas Kinkaid’s sweet and soft views of neighboring civilization across the river, lit up with the warm, orangey glow of lamp light. How the boat gently rocks…

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The “Five Year” Lie We’ve All Told

“So, where do you see yourself in five years?” You’ve been there, right? Sitting in a job interview with an executive across the desk that asks the question with feigned interest in the answer. Or, perhaps sincere interest, if that person believes in the purported meaning of the lie you’re about to tell. And, we…

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How We Chose Our Cruising Boat

  “What boat should I buy?” This question gets floated around on the Liveaboard and Cruising forums every now and again.  The responses range from good-natured and helpful, to crusty old farts grunting, “Do your own research, kid. You can’t just go on Facebook and mine the experience of decades of my life! Rabble, rabble,…

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How Do You Become a Cruiser?

A few weeks ago, we drove out to Ft. Lauderdale to go see the crew of Delos give a talk in front of an audience of 200-ish people. SV Delos has been an inspiration to us our last year living in Dallas, keeping our eyes aching for the deep blue and our souls hungry for…

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This Isn’t So Bad

We have now lived aboard a grand total of five weeks. With the labor of selling off the stuff, packing what remained, driving the remains a thousand miles, unpacking it and donating still more behind us, our lives have finally settled into a familiar pattern. A pattern that is different than the one we left,…

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Goose Eggs for All!

*Naughty words ahead* Bang! “Oww!” Bang! “Oww, dammit!” Bang! “Oww, shit!” Bang! Crash! Screech! “Oh, fuck, oh fuck, oh, fuck!” My move-in week in a nutshell. I banged my head on something in the boat about fifteen times in the first six days after we moved aboard. Every time I attempted to move around the…

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Holy Sh*t. I Live on a Boat!

I awoke yesterday with an extreme case of cognitive dissonance. It wasn’t one of those moments when you wake up in a hotel on vacation and you don’t remember where you are. I knew full well where I was, it was just someone else’s life. We left Dallas in the afternoon of Friday, October 7…

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The Cocoon Sucks

I had a really nice, cushy life. Up until a month ago, I had a great apartment on a waterfront park in a swanky neighborhood in Dallas. I was surrounded by friends and family that love me. I had a damn cushy job where I essentially had enough personal and emotional capital to run my…

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No One Wants My Crap – A Lesson in Reframing

Look at this desk. It’s amazing, right? It looks like someone stole it off the set of Master and Commander. I love it so much. The brass inlay on the bevel is unusual and decadent. The ornate brass guards on the curved legs serve as a warning to any enemy that might get too close…

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Goodbye, Quan Yin

In about an hour, my bedroom furniture is going to leave my apartment. I feel sad about that. Boxing up the drapes that I spent time picking out. Taking down the framed photos that I shot on vacation. Unplugging the lamps that shone on me as I cultivated my meditation practice. All of these things…

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